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The Undertaker is a story about the Twentyman’s philosophy led by Director Adrian Catran.
‘Show me the manner in which a nation or a community cares for its dead and I will measure with mathematical exactness the tender sympathies of its people, their respect for the law of the land and their loyalty to high ideals.’ - William E Gladstone
Twentyman’s is the oldest funeral home in New Zealand and celebrates 150 years in Thames.
It can be happy, humorous, deeply personal, poignant or observational. If it is offered with respect to the one who has passed away, it is received well.
Allowing others to speak at a funeral is a way of sharing the burden. Our own memories of the deceased are priceless, but our memories alone will never be as full or as complete as a collection of memories shared by many.
Prepare yourself beforehand with a few notes if you need, but you are not giving the eulogy, so try to keep it brief.
It’s what we do rather than what we say that is how we are remembered - so don’t give yourself a hard time if you didn’t get the chance to speak deeply with the one you loved before he or she died. Your memories are yours forever.
Speaking in public is something that many of us would rather not do.
So how do we find the courage to stand up at the funeral of a good friend or loved one?
We're not talking about the eulogy here, which we can certainly help you with, but the time set aside for friends and family to come forward and share their memories.
Some don’t consider it appropriate to have a funeral that includes light-hearted, feel-good stories and reflection time - it wasn’t that long ago that people wore black arm bands for a year to denote the period of mourning following a death.
But the days of funerals being extremely sombre affairs have largely gone. In our experience, it’s comforting for everyone at a funeral to hear about your memories with the person who has died.
Remember it’s even nicer to reminisce now and again with that someone special about your good times together before they’re gone. When was the last time you chatted to a friend or loved one about your dying wishes? After you've talked it through, you can pre-plan and get it sorted. If this is something you'd like to explore, you can Book a free consultation with us and we'll help you plan.